tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770922.post115787639794591142..comments2024-03-28T09:18:07.403+02:00Comments on hazelnuts: To Fake Or Not To Fakehazelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13323564058505431981noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770922.post-1158066228282696452006-09-12T16:03:00.000+03:002006-09-12T16:03:00.000+03:00@ elle Don't know about 'needs to', I think many w...@ elle <BR/><BR/>Don't know about 'needs to', I think many women still do fake it, inspired by Meg Ryan in the proverbial movie:)No statistics to bring, I'm afraid.<BR/><BR/>Why do they fake it? Because women want to be *perfect* for men, and most are not. I had this conversation with a friend which probably deserves a separate post - about how high men's standards are, because of porn. We do so many things to ourselves 'pretending' they are for ourselves but in fact they are not. Think waxing. It's easier to fake orgasm than to wax. I imagine:)<BR/><BR/>Otherwise, I agree with you about the perfect state of affairs.hazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323564058505431981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770922.post-1157990711089057352006-09-11T19:05:00.000+03:002006-09-11T19:05:00.000+03:00With the number of books and help available to men...With the number of books and help available to men these days, I don't think anyone needs to fake anything :) We need to help men help us and that won't happen by faking it. They will never learn that way and at the end who suffers from the whole thing? Women do. So don't pretend; it will come around and bite you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770922.post-1157913150898937612006-09-10T21:32:00.000+03:002006-09-10T21:32:00.000+03:00@ Wynche: My understanding is that the author of t...@ Wynche: <BR/><BR/>My understanding is that the author of the book is a *former* feminist who has changed her mind in this particular area;) <BR/><BR/>I think the message of the reviewing article is very clear - the author does not agree with pretending. <BR/>Neither do I.<BR/><BR/><I>'There will be no white flag above my door.'</I><BR/><BR/>Didohazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323564058505431981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770922.post-1157910862402398432006-09-10T20:54:00.000+03:002006-09-10T20:54:00.000+03:00As the old joke cleverly puts it,"Why do women fak...As the old joke cleverly puts it,<BR/>"Why do women fake it?"<BR/>"Because they think men care."<BR/><BR/>Stay true, is my opinion. If it brings anxiousness to somebody, that's not my problem, it's theirs.<BR/><BR/>What you call a white flag I see as degrading both to men (they need to be lied to and taken care of, to be happy), and to women (they need to cultivate their men and make them suitable to their needs, to be happy).<BR/><BR/>"We have to pretend...", she says. Come again? Pretend? Why? So that men would marvel at our being a multitasking genious?<BR/>It all revolves around men's opinion about us, doesn't it?<BR/><BR/>Excuse me sister, but there isn't a grain of feminism in this :)<BR/><BR/>- W.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com